Thursday, February 1, 2018


Are you juggling all these all these different people that you are as a mom?  Are you keeping them in the correct priority order?

  1. Child of God
    • Take personal time with the Lord each day.
    • Mornings with coffee or tea, keeps me most consistent.
  2. Wife
    • Husband comes before your children.
    • You will learn the little things that can bring him joy when he gets back from work.
      • Like he would prefer to have the toys out of the walkway than worrying about having dinner ready.  Or he likes when all the clean clothes are off the couch and doesn't mind the toys all about.
    • Each day have a real conversation with your husband.
      • Not just the catch up on the kids.
      • It doesn't have to be the finances, but you want to spend the rest of your life with this man.  Know him outside of your kids.
  3. Mom
    • You are training your children to be adults.
      • Each day you can train or teach a new life skill.
      • Encourage them.
    • Most of the house work.
      • Balance this, don't work as a slave to your family, but teach your children how to be helpers.
      • My husband is kind and helpful when not at work, but I won't want him to feel like I expect him to do everything when he comes home.  He is very willing to lend a helping hand.
  4. Woman - I put this last because I believe that if we are married and blessed with children, that that need is more important that ourselves.
    • Take care of your body.
      • Inside and out: be healthy and be active, hair and beauty as well.
    • Know your limits.
      • If you are easily stressed, you need to have a way of handling that.
      • You need to make time for yourself.  Don't feel guilty.

There are so many people that we "wear" as mom's.  Some days it can be overwhelming.  I hope that this will help clear your mind like it did mine!

Wednesday, September 13, 2017

Acceptance & Moving Forward

     Whether we are talking about our family lives or how our bodies look and feel, we have to accept where we are in order to move forward.

Ask yourself a few questions.  
  • What is my family life like?
  • How am I spending my time each day?
  • What am I thankful for?
  • What trial has been holding me back?
I believe that you need to know the answers to these questions before you can move on to improving yourself.
Stop focusing on the trials from the past.  Learn from them, do not focus on them.  If you are so focused on the past you haven't learned from the trials and moved forward.  

If you have worked through those questions, the next step is moving forward.
  • Are you spending the time with your family you want too?
    • If no, list a few things you can do to spend more time together.
    • If yes, praise the Lord.
  • Each day is important in God's eyes.  Is it important in our eyes?
  • Do you have ways to better spend your time?
    • Is there time spent in God's Word?
    • How much time is spent on a computer/laptop/tablet/phone?
  • How can I improve the way I feel?
    • What am I putting into my body?
      • How is it impacting the other parts of my life?
    • Am I moving or couch potato?
  • How does my home feel?
    • Are you stressed by your home or do you walk into a haven?
While writing this, I feel like we can all benefit from working on a few of these questions.  It's good to evaluate where you are, accept it, and move forward.

Sunday, June 25, 2017

The art of boredom

Just last week, a mother of a 15 month old was telling me that she wished that her daughter would take the ipad and pay attention to it.  You look around and 8 out of 10 people are looking at a phone or device.  Children have been taught to be still, only with the device in their hand.

I am a parent trying to balance the use of devices.  In my opinion, they are not wrong, just used in the wrong way.

Learning to sit still has been taught to my children in church since they came out of the nursery.  They do not have a hard time.  They don't need anything to distract them.  They are paying attention to the singing, prayer, and preaching.

Sitting at the pharmacy, my son or daughter asks to play my phone.  My answer will always be no.  We can sit for 10 minutes, 20 minutes, or 40 minutes depending on the day without a device in our hand.  How many more conversations do I have with my children because we are looking at each other?

When their school lessons are done, instruments are practiced, and they want to play on the device, that seems more reasonable.  Now if the sun is shining, and they haven't played outside, I have them play.  That is more beneficial.

The hardest part is not balancing devices for my children, it would be making sure I'm not on them too much.  I'm an adult; it's allowed.  We have to remember we are the example and that our children want to do everything that we do.  Even if it's playing on your phone while you're watching TV.   Something you would think is no big deal.

They are always watching.  Be what you want them to follow.

Monday, June 19, 2017

Showers of Blessings

I love the hymn Showers of Blessings. 

There shall be showers of blessing:
  This is the promise of love;
There shall be seasons refreshing,
  Sent from the Savior above.

There shall be showers of blessing—
  Precious reviving again;
Over the hills and the valleys,
  Sound of abundance of rain.

There shall be showers of blessing;
  Send them upon us, O Lord!
Grant to us now a refreshing;
  Come, and now honor Thy Word.

There shall be showers of blessing;
  O that today they might fall,
Now as to God we’re confessing,
  Now as on Jesus we call!

There shall be showers of blessing,
  If we but trust and obey;
There shall be seasons refreshing,
  If we let God have His way.

Showers of blessing,
  Showers of blessing we need;
Mercy-drops round us are falling,
    But for the showers we plead.

When I was younger, I thought the hymn was just talking about how much a blessing the rain is when it is falling.  Although it is a blessing, it has so much more meaning to me to me now.  
Our family has felt the "showers of blessings" from the Lord.  I am so incredibly blessed.  The fifth verse really drives home the reminder that we need to trust and obey the Lord.  Not have our way, but give all to God and let God have His way.  
At times, I feel guilty for the blessings.  I know we have gone through trials and have grown spiritually, but I always want my focus to be the Lord.  I am thankful for the showers of blessings.

Sunday, June 4, 2017

PSC Cycles

As a military family, we start to live our lives in these PSC cycles.  I understand it works different for different branches and different jobs, but this is a small glimpse into what it's been like.

We will start with the "dream sheet".  You started debating months or even a year prior about all the possibilities.  You have these hopes and dreams.  The day finally comes when you find out what the possibilities actually are.  It becomes real.  You know that if you put it on that "dream sheet" you could really move there.  So if you don't want to go to Alaska, don't put it on your "dream sheet", even as your fifth choice.  The "dream sheet" gets submitted, and you realize it doesn't matter what you put on that sheet.  You have no control at all.  You get to wait, hope, and pray.

After lots of waiting, that's not as long as it actually feels, you get your assignment.  Let's hope we are excited.  Most of the time, we are excited!  Then, I get the itch. The itch that says I want to leave NOW!  Not in the four to five month that we are actually going to move, but now, right now.

You spend the next two months cleaning out your house, because you do not want to bring junk or unwanted toys or clothes the next house.  It is a wonderful purge!  

One month before you leave, a sinking feeling hits.  You were so excited to leave you were running out the door, but reality sinks in and you don't want to leave the friends you have made over the assignment.  You try to pack in as much friend time as possible and try not to cry.  Hoping the last time you saw them, is not "goodbye", but "see you later".

Finally you get to your new home.  You are so incredibly excited to see what everything will be like.  You start settling in and making new friends. 

Then a year or so later you start talking about that dream sheet again......


Monday, October 24, 2016

Gym Coach

     Another part of my life is being a gymnastics coach.  I absolutely love my job.  I always want to be the best that I can be, and that definitely is true when it comes to coaching.  There is so much more to coaching than showing up to class.
     There is planning stations for your events; focusing on a new skill each week; making sure to bring in new drills to keep it interesting; keep researching to find new ways to teach a skill; knowing what mats you are going to need.  This part of coaching can become time consuming.  I enjoy it and have to make sure I do not get sucked into watching to many gymnastics coaching videos.  Being prepared it very important!
     Last week, we had the pleasure of having a highly qualified coach come into our gym, and work with some of the coaches and classes.  I enjoyed getting to see how my classes behaved and performed in front of him.  I had a few embarrassing moments, but I was proud of how hard they have work.  Working with him, has pushed me to be a better coach.
     I always want to be better.  Not only should I want to be better at my job outside the home, but all my other jobs as well.  Being a wife and mom doesn't feel like jobs at all because I love being them so much.  
     God has truly blessed my family.  I am blessed.  I think of the Proverbs 31 women.  She works and manages multitasking very gracefully.  I am striving to be a Proverbs 31 women.

Tuesday, September 27, 2016


Philippians 4:6 - Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

2 Thessalonians 3:16 - Now the Lord of peace himself give you peace always by all means. The Lord [be] with you all.

1 Peter 5:7 - Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

As an outsider, you would see a mom who has much on her plate.  You many even think that my life must feel like a tornado or typhoon, but its is more like the eye of the storm.  This peace comes from the Lord.

There will be good and bad days.  There will be great and terrible days.  I am thankful that I can always go to Him in prayer.

I do have so much going on.  I homeschool, work outside the home between 12-15 hours a week, have squadron functions 2-3 times a month, and I try to workout 3-5 times a week.  Of course, I like to keep my home running smoothly.  My kids are gymnasts and both play instruments.  We love family time and social time with friends.  Add on to this that I am suffering from migraines again.  

It seems that this is the normal life of a mom these days.  I pray that I am juggling these many things with grace.  I don't want to complain.  I want to continue to have the peace that I have today.  Of course, I do not always have it.  I know I need to continue to lean on the Lord.  He is my strength and my shield.